You win: I have a new book title.
October 8, 2026
Oh man, I thought I’d ride out my original title to the end. But the people (i.e., YOU) have spoken.
My Blog
Essays on coercive control, identity, and the work of staying yourself. Repeatedly.
The Book Intro I’m No Longer Using
July 29, 2026
Here’s the book intro to Joy Without Apology that didn’t make it into the most recent edit. I think it will give you a taste of what’s to come.
What REAL Community Is
July 15, 2026
I spent twenty years looking for community in a cult. It took two ordinary conferences — and everything I’ve learned since escaping — to show me what I’d actually been missing.
What Freedom Actually Feels Like
July 14, 2026
For ten years I lived behind chain-link fencing topped with razor wire. Freedom, it turned out, wasn’t waiting on the other side of that fence — it showed up years later, in a coffee shop, with a novel I picked for no reason except that I wanted to.